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The Whole Enchilada (or taco recipe) and Dealing with Toxic Relationships.

Yes, relationships. It all boils to relationships (not the taco, thou.) 😉

Hello again!

I will be sharing the taco recipe today along with this post… Ingredients first.

 

Step One.

Ingredients

2 cups hydrated hibiscus flower

2 red tomatoes, diced

¼ white onion finely chopped

1 jalapeno or serrano chili pepper, finely diced

¼ cup coriander (cilantro)

½ teaspoon olive oil

1 jicama in very thin slices (these are your tortillas)

Salsa, and lime juice

 

As for the toxic relationship: a person exhibiting toxic behaviors and another person buying in them. PERIOD.

You might have noticed that on my other posts I stress three things: a behavior, someone buying in and an unhealthy dance or toxic relationship they have.

Again, it takes two to tango. Maybe because of my background as a humanistic counsellor, in Gestalt and on Robbinss-Madanes training I tend to focus on empowerment and the possibility of healing. I typically do not tag others and do not diagnose in my coaching or in my practice. That’s for Psychiatrists, and DSM V criteria. But I.Don’t.Do.That.

 

Step Two.

Break the pattern. Yes, you heard me well, break the pattern. And I will set forth three roads for you to choose from, because I believe what Tony says, a choice implies at least three options.

One. Leave the scene or the relationship. On the leave part you can do it either physically or emotionally. Be bolder and do both? I know some of these relationships might be family, so the emotional part (even the physical one) might be difficult and seem impossible.

Two. Learn to laugh at yourself and take things with humor. Chances are the offender might be caught off track and either stop in the turmoil come back with a vengeance. Still take it with humor, as you’ve been warned.

Three. Observe from love. Yes, you heard well, from love, specifically SELF-LOVE. Instead of understanding and making puzzles around THEIR behavior. Take a step back, pause and love yourself more. That’s the first step to be unhooked from it all.

Ah, the taco recipe:

How to make the tacos:

  1. Put the hibiscus to boil in water for 5 to 8 minutes at medium to high heat. (You can use the concentrated tea that comes from its boiling and keep it to prepare hibiscus water, a Mexican delicacy).
  2. Dice the hibiscus in fine chops.
  3. Rinse in tap water. If the hibiscus is still a bit stiff, set it to boil for another 5 to 8 minutes.
  4. In a hot pan, warm a bit of oil and cook for the tomato, the onion and the chili peppers for 5 minutes, if you don’t want for it to be a hot dish you can remove the seeds from the peppers or not add them at all.
  5. Add the diced hibiscus flower, the coriander and a pinch of salt and pepper.

 

 

Step Three

 

Take steps forward to get out of the toxic relationships and you will see your life improve.

You will notice an increase of happiness, energy and positivity in your life. Sooo… #StepUp

It’s your time to #RISE to #RAWR and #Live2Soar.

See? Now you can enjoy better relations hips, AND healthier tacos!!!

Oh, oh, serve the hibiscus in the jicama and enjoy your tacos. You can add salsa, the lime juice or go bold and add guacamole!

Have an awesome weekend!

Angelica

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Recipe was translated from: https://www.pizcadesabor.com/tacos-de-jamaica-la-mexicana/

Get Trim from Within! Stack up Habits! #OneByOne

It’s time Hack Emotional Stress!
Hello again!

I truly believe in trimming down though and through. Lighter everything. instantly stands for increased flow.

Sooo… today I’ll be speaking of the power of getting Trim from Within! What does getting trim from within mean? It means literally travelling lighter in all aspects of your life, starting today!
Get rid of clutter. That’s just an example. To really get to the core and the nit and grit of your losing any and all excessive weight – or at least starting to trim down (your body, your  work load or your schedule – is dealing with your emotions and toxic habits, behaviors and self-talk; as those are a straight line to comfort foods, doing things for love, approval or acceptance, and addictions (yes, including work).

I am pro-action and against victimhood so, I won’t be speaking about food, addictions or even getting into toxic relationships. Instead,  I will be talking about the three core emotions that keep you falling off the wagon and into damaging toxicity.

1. Anxiety – also known (and more popularly known as) stress… A meeting with your boss, a heavily loaded work-day, traffic, DEBT (financial or emotional), politics you name it. Endorphins needed!!!

2. Sadness/Pain/Grief – any loss. Literally any loss. We don’t seem to grow much through time, do we? Do you recall when you cried over a doll or a toy car? Bad news is, in a way, you still do! We all do. Say you lose your I-phone 10, or your favorite technology gadget; or cannot buy it. You’ll get comfort food instead, right? Again, think of the break-up ice-cream scene of any movie.

3. GUILT – ah! This is a heavy one, perhaps the heaviest in the list. There are so many things we feel guilty for, so very many! The most popular among super-busy over-achievers?a) I didn’t go to the gym AGAIN! Ugh, I cannot make time for even that; b) I didn’t get to my family reunion for working, I got too late to see my kid/s off to bed (again!) Ugh!; c) I failed at … (fill it with whichever thing you want on this list). The problem with guilt is that guilt is the mother of all addictions and mindless activities. As guilt is a combination of anxiety and sadness with the extra point of self-blame and typically, self-demanding (possibly through unrealistic goals or lack of boundaries).

By the way, Grief and Guilt add up to the Anxiety and Stress combo… So, if you want to trim from within…
Start tackling those emotions by cleansing the people and activities that trigger them; you could change the meaning of the interaction or just stop seeing that person or avoiding the activity.
Get into emotional liberation practices like EFT.
Make your goals more REALISTIC and ELIMINATE or MINIMIZE your self-demand. Yes, goals should be ambitious, but not overwhelmingly so.

And of course, to succeed START TODAY! Take ONE action, ideally one you can build a habit of and stack up on it.

Need help? Stop struggling getting your life back into shape!

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See you soon!

Angie Weaver

The Secret Society of Personal Growth. Huh?

Exactly my thoughts!

As a Life and Business Coach I was amazed to see how Facebook Satatistics just do NOT like personal growth. Just check their ads options. Personal Growth, you’re limiting your audience too much. Whoa!

So I decided to launch this one article into infinity and speak about personal growth.  The way I see it, growth is the key  to living and the fuiel to our dreams! Why personal? Well, because the one growing is you!

Now, I have seen those that sit comfortable with their lives and project no growth whatsoever in their future, so I will ask you. What are you afraid of?

I have seen those running like a hamster in a wheel for their “balanced” routine, and I would like to ask you. What are you escaping from?

And I have seen the opposite, people wanting to thrive in life, people of any age making an every day choice to llive as if this was the adventure it IS!

The difference? The people in the latter group are about growth. About facing challenges and problems, with a smile on their faces and their head held high, these are people with a powerful WHY. People invested in LIVING, giving, growing and sharing.

Why not express it in a Bucket List, you can look at mine (on the picture of this post)  and peek in how all can be turned into goals. All too, speak of a larger purpose,

Do you want to hop in?

You can schedule  your Discovery Strategic Intervention session here: >>> https://bit.ly/2C9AkgO

Enjoy!

 

“The Purpose and Contribuiton Conundrum”

Some years ago, I didn’t even want to talk about having a purpose let alone transcending in any way. As time went by, I discovered that there are no greater drivers at any age than growth, purpose and contribution. When I faced depression for having lost my main income, most of my work and got a divorce (both huge breakthroughs from toxicity, but still a loss) and then my 5 day old cat died in front of me of feline panleukopemia – even if she was already a rag when I got her to the vet. I had to regroup and rebuild myself brick to brick in the awareness to evolve from said toxicity and build a stronger, happier,more fulfilling life.

Shortly after, I met a man that changed my life – he said the magic words… Discover a life by serving another, that will give purpose and meaning to yours.

Ah! then my focus started on looking for ways in which I could change the world doing exactly what I loved. My search got me to several different answers – teaching people how to eat better building and focusing on a purpose greater than I am got me up every day. I was already a learning and kind of a wellness/ fitness junkie at that point.

Soon, I discovered that three things were key to one’s life – Growth, Purpose and Contribution.

Having a purpose means giving meaning to your life, having a reason to get up.

Making said purpose about contribution gives it the pull of making it about something greater than yourself.

As in anything in life, I’d recommend you start small.

You can start with a gesture, a good tip. Really seeing and acknowledging those who cater to you in any way a waiter, the valet, bus driver, etc..

Give away a smile, giving away your time and experience to help others.

Start a charity, volunteer or give away your time and talent to help others.

Live a life with purpose and get up with a smile on your face!

Quick tip? It’s also key to living stress-free and driven to achieve more balance.

Want to learn more?

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Enjoy!

Angelica

#FancyFridays Creative Techniques to help You SoaR!

Hiii!

Catchy title, huh? Well, in this total make-over month, I wanted to re-vamp my practice, to better serve and help you. Part of this business re-vamp has been focused on defining new and unique ways to help you SOAR! This IS personal growth redefined.

The focus of our creative technique of this first #FancyFriday is self-care as an every day tool to boost self-empowerment and self-love. You might say… oh, I have that covered! Do you? Perhaps you run all day long, and even your exercise and self-care routine are embedded into your schedule and you do them every day. Like shave on the run, apply make-up on the run and storm out of your house…

Well, I’ve got news for you, that doesn’t sound much as a self-care technique. Think of self-care as a day at a spa… YES at a SPA. Are you running while you’re there? What is the sound in your surroundings, the smells, the textures and even the liquids you’re drinking? Our invitation for you today is to practice a Spa-like environment via mindfulness every day for at least 20 minutes.  I know, I know you’re thinking 20 minutes?! Installing that kind of environment ALONE will take me 20 minutes or more! And that’s the trick, mindfulness can get you in that spa mood in seconds.

What you will need, is some meditation music and/or silence, your favorite scented oil, if you prefer or are a beginner in meditation or mindfulness, a candle and 2 – 5 minutes. Mindfulness is about appreciating the here and now with no other focus. The tools described in the previous lines are meant to help you. Once you’re an expert, you can have your instant spa without those… Have your favorite scented oil handy, place a few drops on your hands and rub them. Now open your hands in front of  your nose and inhale deeply 3 times… If you have any thoughts say hi thought, and let them go. Turn on the meditation music, and light the candle… look at the flame of the candle as you focus on your breathing.  You can do this for 2 minutes 10 times per day, 5 minutes four times per day, or 10 minutes twice per day… Whichever you pick, it’s the trick to practice winding down into being in the here and now, often, enjoying life.

I hope you enjoy the benefits of being mindful which will boost your peace, focus, and power o intention.

Enjoy!

Angelica

Strong from Within Fitness!!!

Helloo!!!

Welcome back! I am posting today with something that has been haunting me for weeks. We are all about balance, true; and about real foods, fair enough. And what about fitness? Well, we are all about what we will call in this series, real fitness too!

What does that mean? Well, that means we are traditional when it comes to building strength and we recommend and prefer fitness exercises that build strong muscles and bones from within.

Our stars are:

  1. Martial Arts
  2. Yoga
  3. Body weight exercise
  4. Dancing – Ballet, Jazz, Yoga, Zumba, Barre

Yes, I know I am leaving out a lot of popular fitness trends and techniques. However, we quote these four as our favorites, because they build strength from within. Martial Arts, such as Kung Fu, and Yoga are number one and two due to their specific mix of mindfulness, breathing, flexibility, and strength building.

Body weight exercise and Dancing made the list because of their focus on building strength from within, through repetitive movements and routines. Dancing will typically involve flexibility training while you need to add some stretch routine for Body weight.

You could make any HIIT or Tabata HITT or leave them as is. Any of these are great cardio and will get you strong from within!

Happy soaring!

Angellica

New Image, Bigger Goals

On our Keto and Healing journey we found out that we wouldn’t have gotten anywhere without making each other accountable. Unshakeable Balance icame from our journey through having a business, fitness, family and building strength through and through. We discovered our program was more about a lifestye than only a diet. Visit our pages, Participate on our raffle event. We’re here to help you soar from within!

We are confident our tools and strategies will forever change your life so you can thrive in balance, through a strong body and a strong core, we are here to help you soar!

Here are some links you can try:

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Enjoy!

Happy soaring!

Angelica

Extinguish Burnout by Doing these Three Things!!!

  1. Breathe – You’re perhaps thinking, I do that every day. And I’m sure you do! The trick is doing it in a mindful way. And here’s my favorite way to do so. It will work if you’re a beginner or an advanced yoga or meditative practitioner. Aternate Nostril Breathing  –  Close your right nostril with your right thumb inhale   27 in left, deeply through your left nostril. Close your left nostril with your right ring finger exhale 27 out right, inhale from that very same nostril – 26 in right, cover it and then exhale from your left nostril – 26 out left, inhlae from that nostril -25 in left … keep on repeating the procedure and count down from 27 down. I typically get to 16 and feel a lot more calm.
  2. Move – may it be 2 minutes, 5 or 10, but move! A great tip is to dance in your place, walk, still running, etc… If you’re at your office, get a standing desk or (if you get the chance) walk while on the phone. Should that not be an option, walk 10-20 minutes after lunch at a brisk pace, the movement and oxygen will clear and calm your mind.
  3. Avoid simple carbs (sugars and white pastas),processed and pre-packaged foods (sweet rolls, breads, chips and sodas …) and alcohol. All these will spike the sugar levels in your blood.,your body produces more cortisol and your body, then, stresses from within too!

And remember, “The cyclone derives its powers from a calm center, so does a person.” Norman Vincent Peale.

 

Happy Friday!

Angelica

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One Ingredient at at a Time!

Hello!

Welcome back! On this one to series… We invite you to try this, substitute one ingredient at a time!

If you’re familiar or have been following my FB group Unshakeable Balance, you already know that I’ve been sharing common recipes, and substituting the high-carb ingredient for a low-carb one. Again, One Ingredient at a time! Our program is to help you heal, eat better, live a more balanced life and MOVE! Our One By One technique is the slow but steady road to dieting… As we practice what we preach, we know that substituting every single ingredient in your meals will make the dish taste completely different. So, instead of accidentally turning your favorite spaghetti and meatballs into zoodles with tofu, replace one ingredient only.

For example, you can start by using whole grain pasta; or if you have a spiralizer, you could try zoodles instead leave the meatballs and sauce as they are. As you know, we’re into eating real foods, and building a sustainable diet, and a sustainable planet while at it, so we suggest you try making your own fresh tomato sauce rather than using a canned variety, very likely to be packed with preservatives.

One.By.One

Balance to Soar!

Enjoy!

Angellica

One Push-up Is All It Takes…

Hey!

I’ve been preparing and modifying my page to make it about you!

You might be wondering… is THIS even true? And the answer is Yes, and No… First let me clear that no… NO, a singlel push-up, plank or any other exercise will not make you fit. Unless, unless that is what you start with first thing in the morning and stack up on it. The principle behind this idea is that to change your life and your body; and ultimately to achieve every and any goal in your life you need to start small and keep on moving forward. You might have heard about this as Baby Steps, stacking mini-habits, and so on… I will call it the One Push-Up principle. And here’s your strategy: Day 1: ONE Push-up, 10 second plank (or half a plank). This will get you moving. If on day 1 you want to do more, please go ahead. Just fair warning DO NOT over-do it! The idea is that you enjoy your workout, diet and therefore are willing and able to do more and to keep to it.

Here are two strategies:

The 3 plank work-out. 3 planks, 10 timed seconds each. One front plank, and one to each side. If you don’t have the strength to hold them, yet, do each with your knees and forearms to the floor. Stack up 10 seconds every three days and as you move forward and get stronger get further from the floor, first try holdin your weight with your palm, then take turns and put your legs up while your forerarms are brining you full support

The 3 exercise strategy. Exercise 1 – 10 squats, back straight, Exercise 2 – 10 push-ups, on your knees if you’re a beginner, full if you’re not a beginner, Exercise 3 – 10 V-up crunches. Raise them on 5 every week, and add a new exercise.

Enjoy!

Angelica

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Every Diet Starts on Monday!

How are you doing?

Sitll  battling with losing weight and all the  diet products?
We can help! We have a diet program that rocks and that will keep you full. That’s right, full as in NOT feeling hungry.

Even better? It will keep you healthier and full of energy. No chemicals added! So here’s our free Sample Menu. Enjoy!

Have a great week!

Happy soaring!

Angelica

 

Our Story – This IS Weight Loss for Personal Growth!

Hii!!

Allow me to tell you about our program.

This story started about a year ago. I was stalled in losing weight. I was exercising 2 hours per day, every day and I was gaining weight:– and NOT from muscle! So, I got on a Detox diet from a book. It worked, but the problem was it kept me dehydrated. Around that time, my (then) friend David and I started dating and shortly afterwards, he shared his diet (prescribed by his MD) which was already based on a Ketogenic frame with mostly Alkaline foods. The book I had read was on Ayurveda and David already knew some about spices, so we literally spiced up the program his MD had given him. My (then) boyfriend asked me to help him design weekly menus, which I soon turned into a program to help heal the love of my life and (now) husband from Lyme Disease (at least his symptoms). Since we had a family project in our minds, I started up on the same program.

Not only did we lose weight from fat, but he also improved massively on his symptoms to the point of not getting ill in winter. And me? Well, I said good-bye to all of MY symptoms that included heart -burn, indigestion, IBS and nasal allergies. You get the picture. We have been perfecting this program to make it a balanced diet (and not a bacon diet like most Ketogenic ones), and to detox, fast, cleanse and even avoid constipation.

On the coming e-mails I will be sharing our story, and some of our most precious tips.

PLUS we’re about to launch! We are super excited!!

This is Weight Loss for Personal Growth!

Come join the fun!

Happy soaring,

Angelica.

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Is Weight Loss THE Key to Abundance and Success?

OMG!

I couldn’t believe my eyes either when I heard that! 

Hii!

As a Psychotherapist I’m interested in personal growth, and as your coach I am interested in giving you the best I possibly can.

And the answer to that question is, YES, it IS! Why? Well, because being slimmer will aid in your being healthier, and keep your energy flowing; plus keeping to a healthy nutrition program boosts your self-empowerment and self-belief through having the disicpline of following it.

I have shared a number of times here that weight issues scrape at the core of your emotional healing. Through healing emotionally you boost your self-esteem. Which is why we embedded coaching into our on-line coures. Going in deeper into this, the less toxic emotions you harvest, the better your self-esteem is, the more likely you are to succeed. The more you succeed, the more abundant you allow yourself to be.

Plus, being trimmer is a good sign for self-care which will impact your image, your relationship with yourself and your self-confidence.

You are here to soar!

We are launching our group sessions on May 9th! 

Happy soaring!

Angelica

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La Llave de la Abundancia – Especial en Español!

Conoce nuestra herramienta en Español para liberar tus emociones tóxicas y abrir la llave de tu Abundancia.

En estas sesiones aprenderás técnicas para liberar emociones tóxicas y a comer en exceso o comidas por consuelo emocional, aprenderás a liberar el estrés. Comida sana, emociones sanas, para fluir!!!

Si deseas conocer nuestras sesiones individuales da click en el siguiente enlace:

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Los grupos de crecimiento en Español serán lanzados el lunes 8 de mayo.

Esta es tu oportunidad de brillar! #SoaringSouls

Feliz fin de semana,

Angélica

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